Ok, so I'm not trying to steal any thunder from any psychology teacher around here, but this week we are going to talk a bit about social learning theory, especially as it applies to how all of you think about things, but more specifically, how you learn about things.
So, first, the basics: social learning theory was developed around 1976-7 by Albert Bandura. Up until then, the general thoughts about how kids learned centered on behaviorist theories (think Classical and Operant conditioning--or if you have absolutely no idea what I am talking about, click here to educate yourself on the topic):
No clue what you're talking about, Bunj.
So, Bandura pretty much agreed with Watson, Skinner, and Pavlov about the components of learning, but he wanted to add what he thought were 2 key ideas: 1) there is a connection between stimulus and response, and 2) people learn through observing others.
So. to recap, social learning theory suggests that you all learn from watching people around you, mimicking them, and catologuing the response you get. An example people use has to do with what is known as the BoBo Doll experment, where kids watched adults either hug, and kiss and speak sweetly to a doll, or punch, and kick and speak harshly to it. When left alone with the doll, the kids mimicked what they saw the adults do.
So, Bandura used the results from this experiment to further hypothesize that it wouldn't just be adults that kids mimicked. He believed that if the kids got a positive reaction (response) from other kids after doing things (stimulus), they would learn that those things were the "right" things to be doing. Basically, we can blame him for the concept known as "social awkwardness" then, because he taught us to guage the reaction of those around us in order to set up ideas, boundaries, parameters or whatever you want to call it, about how to act in public, and around our peers.
So, let's test the theory. Think back to your most awkward or embarassing moment. How did you know it was awkward/embarassing? Talk a bit about that, about how you recognized the awkwardness or knew to be embarassed. What did that experience teach you about your actions?
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ReplyDeleteI’ve always hated this question lol. Whenever someone asks me what’s my most embarrassing moment, I never know what to respond because I have so many to choose from. I have so many, that I can’t pick one right on the spot.
ReplyDeleteI’m naturally a shy and awkward person. I hate public speaking so whenever I get up in front of the room, all eyes on me, I start screaming internally. When I read OPs for example, my voice is never loud enough to fill the room. I find it embarrassing how my voice also starts to shake and causes me to stutter. I notice how public speaking comes naturally to others and how they couldn’t care less while all eyes are on them. I’ve always envied it, wishing I could do the same.
Another thing, during softball season I get red in the face many times. Not only because I’m angry but embarrassed I’m not even playing on the field. I never played sports until my freshman year so I understand if I suck. But, last year I was one of the few juniors still on JV and still warming the bench. With three years playing, I thought I was progressing well. Obviously not enough. It always hurt not seeing my name in the lineup. It hurt even more that a freshman took my spot. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t mind that I was on JV. I always told myself that “I’d rather be on JV playing in the game versus on varsity and sitting on the bench”... but guess what? I wasn’t even playing LOL!! I knew this was embarrassing when I was one of the few on the bench game after game. In practice, I gave 110% but during scrimmages within our team, I would probably fuck up once and that’ll cause me to sit out. Both JV and varsity coaches blew my shit constantly. My “skills” weren’t good enough to play a JV game, as a freshman, sophomore or junior. This year, as a senior, I’m supposed to be on varsity but God only knows if I play. As I’m sitting here writing this, I’m questioning if I should still play or not. I could work more hours at Hollister, maybe even get a second job. I’m good brand rep. I’m good working. My manager nominated me for employee of the month my third month working. I get recognized more at work than I do in softball. Am I still quitting softball though? No. It’s my last year in high school, last year playing softball. My first time being on varsity, and probably my only chance to be on varsity. I’m going for it. If I sit the bench, then at least I can say I was varsity amirite?!!????
I have had a lot of embarrassing and awkward moments but most of them are too embarrassing and awkward to even talk about. I always knew when I was in an awkward or embarrassing situation because my face would turn red and I would want to climb in my bed away from everyone and everything. I hate awkward and embarrassing moments they just make me feel like “ugh did that really just happen?”
ReplyDeleteWe can throw this back to 8th grade when Callisto pants me in front of the entire gym class. My favorite part of this unfortunate event is a teacher saw it, reported it, Callisto was suspended and I was called a snitch from even some of my friends. In middle school all the girls drooled over this boy so I guess that’s what made even more embarrassing over the fact that my entire gym class just saw my ass. To this day I am still mad at myself for not turning around and punching him in the face but it will always be a funny story to tell.
When we are embarrassed or feel awkward, we just know it. It is that feeling where you want to run away from the event or situation and never look back. These types of occasions are the complete worse and if there were one thing I could change it would be to never have another awkward moment in my life. But everything can be awkward from a new roommate, a new teacher, and to a conversation with someone you don’t know well. It is all about trying not to make it awkward, which is the hard part.
In my seventeen years of living on this planet, I can certainly say that I have had my fair share of embarrassing moments. There is no telling what awkward moment will happen next for me. And let me tell you, I have survived some really awkwardly adorable ones in the past few weeks. But, let me tell you, nothing, and I literally mean nothing can be worse than the time where my pants ripped right down the middle. It was probably the most embarrassed I have ever been, beating the time where I accidently took my kid cousin to watch a very accurately rated Rated-R movie (in my defense, from the trailer it did not seem that bad).
ReplyDeleteSo, setting the scene, I was about eight or nine years old and in fourth grade. And in fourth grade, my mother made me attend Chinese school every Saturday. I specifically remember wearing a pair of purple jeans (the only reason I owned them was because weirdly enough we had “Purple Pants Tuesday’s”, something us juveniles crafted up because we thought we were so cute and creative) and just chilling in my seat at a table with two girls who ironically had the same first and last names. But then all of a sudden, my teacher called a snack break. And that is when the incident occurred. You best believe that I stayed right where I was until my mom picked me up.
Now, I knew it was an embarrassing moment because (1) people do not walk around with their pants ripped right down the middle, and (2) I watched that one SpongeBob episode. Thus, allowing me to realize that this is not normal and that I should not get up anytime soon. Embarrassment is a natural feeling and something that so many people can relate to yet are not able to explain in any definite words. It is something we feel when an incident occurs that is out of the ordinary and not socially acceptable in the way that others find it appropriate to laugh at your misfortunes. Ultimately, we cannot control the embarrassing moments we experience, but what we can do is control the number of spectators there are. Besides, what is a story without its “life lesson”? Well, for one the lesson I learned is to always carry a sweatshirt.
ReplyDeleteI have more embarrassing moments than I do fingers but the one that sticks out like a sore thumb has to be sophomore year when I was tricked into skipping class. It was a typical day for sophomore Jess, it was lunch time and the field hockey group chat was bumpin.’ The upperclassmen spoke of leaving school at 12:00 so, right after lunch I hauled my butt down to the athletic locker room only to find it locked. As I sat there in confusion and isolation, I realized I must be a fool. I was the only gullible person in that group chat. I ended up sprinting to the front desk and begging for a pass to honors chem with Matlack. I was terrified of ever missing that class. Although Matlack had a warming persona, he was quite intimidating when it came to class. I ran from the front desk all the way to room 330 and anxiously knocked on the door. I could hear Matlack preaching about some chemistry and I couldn’t feel anything but embarrassment. As he opened the door, he said “Jessica! What were you doing? Smoking in the bathroom!!??” I laughed and then explained that I was tricked. I took a seat next to my pals and they said “really jess?” I felt dumb af. It was still funny though. I was salty with those upperclassmen for a minute.
I realized this moment was embarrassing once I was the only loner waiting outside of the locker room. It was really awkward walking into chem late and facing my friends, who were apparently less gullible. This experience taught me to be more aware. I would like to think I’m less gullible. Also, I always double check when we have to leave early for sports. Plus, it’s much easier to receive updates thanks to the Remind Me app. All in all, I learned to stop being an imbecile. I’m probably still not done learning, but hey, Who is?
If youve never had an embarassing moment youre lying, weve all had at least one. Ive had many many many embarrassing moments such as falling down in front of people... FARTING INFRONT OF PEOPLE WHICH IS ALWAYS SO EMBARRASSING, etc etc but the one i recall being suppperr embarrassing is when it was freshman year. I had lunch with my best friend and of course we always played around. I got up and started showing her my "dubstep" dancing, which consisted of the dance more commonly called "the robot", but I had my own little twist on it. I THOUGHT only kennedy was looking at me because i was showing her, but as I look up, everyone was looking at me. They were laughing and i was sooooo embarrassed. Plus my face gets red easily. I just wanted to curl up in a ball and pretended that didn't just happen. Also because I was a freshman and everyone watching was upperclassman but now that I look back I really dont care. I kinda stopped being embarrassed of things a little while ago. I used to be really shy. Especially when I was little, like I wouldnt speak to ANYONE. Id speak in head nods and hand motions, all because I was shy. But now not so much anymore really which I am happy about. I really came out of my shell and am more open and I think that helps with me not being embarrassed by much anymore. If something I would consider "embarrassing" happens, I usually just say in my head "fuck it do i really care no i dont"
ReplyDelete8th grade was my prime year. It was one of the best years ever too just because I had the best class and that's when all my friends became really close friends. We thought we ruled the skool. All the boys and girls were so close(this was way before we were influenced by other sources) and we did a lot of things together. We all probably had a crush on each other. It was typical. One sunny spring day, the Davies track team headed out to our local track aka the oakcrest track. All of my friends were on the track team and as we approached the track we realized it was gated and locked. That didn't stop my friends from hopping it. They all jumped over while I was still sitting there wondering what I was going to do. Haley, my best friend who had already leaped over peer pressured me into getting over the fence. I was not a fence jumper. I hated being off the ground with my whole heart. I'd rather just walk around. With my 2 feet planted touching the grass. Everyone was gassing me I guess. Haley mostly. So I attempted to jump the 3 foot gate. I got half way over when I heard "ziiipppp" and there my pants went. Split into 2 in front of everyone. I knew it was embarrassing because how wouldn't I. I ripped my pants in front of everyone. That's a major embarrassment. It became a big joke but at the time it was not funny. Haley helped me down and I had to practice with split gym shorts. I always just never imagined doing that so when I did it, I was embarrassed. I now never jump over fences and all my friends know that. They all jump and I walk around. I will not put myself through that again HAHAHA.
ReplyDeleteI have been in many awkward/embarrassing situations dating back to my toddler years. Many have been on my own part and others by association. At my elementary school my friends dared me to ask a girl out. I was trying to be smooth and deepened my voice a bit. I walked up to her with the lightskin face on and asked her. When I tell you she curved me so hard it was like a 18 wheeler making a U-turn. I was embarrassed by my peers and everyone in my grade that following week. I was the laughing stock in my grade.
ReplyDeleteEmbarrassing moments are things we can’t control I think. For example, if your at a football game and someone walking past you accidentally pours a drink on you. At the moment you’d feel embarrassed. Knowing it wasn’t your fault but an accident on the other person's part.Some embarrassing situations we simply can't control.
One of the most awkward moments I get into occasionally with my mom is when she asks me if I walked the dog. We sit in an awkward silence as she waits for me to answer the question. I just wait for her to say something before I do because I don’t want to walk the dog.As she gives me “that look” as if shes gonna knock me out I get up and walk the dog. Only short I take on a daily I promise.
I remember freshman year being on the wrestling team. That was the whole reason I really came to this school, it was to wrestle. I had originally wrestled in middle school so I couldn't wait for high school wrestling. After about 3 weeks of grueling practice I was already showing to be one of the better freshman wrestlers so they moved me to the more experienced mat. I was there for a couple days having Tristen Barry, are senior team captain as my partner. We were going over technique and the coach was teaching us a complex leg move that I never learned before. The coach said if we did it the wrong way we could end hurting are partner. Not knowing what I was doing I blindly did the move and executed it really sloppy and ended up hurting Tristan's leg. Coach noticed what I did and fussed at me for it, Tristan was okay though. He told me to do it again I tried for the second time and before I knew it are team captain was on the ground clutching his leg in pain while coach stared at me furiously. "Get off the mat Marrero your done for today" is what I heard from my coach while seeing all my teammates and assistant coaches looking at me. I was so embarrassed I actually started tearing up a little. I slowly walked off the mat while my coach complained how we need to pay attention and stop messing around and how this wouldn't have happen if I I was doing the move right. I sat there waiting for the 40 min that the practice still had before it was done feeling so embarrassed, thinking of wanting to quit, and wondering if Tristan was alright because I hurt him pretty bad. After practice the coach came back up to me and gave me a lecture about everything I did wrong like I didn't already know. I was trying to hold back tears while he was telling me everything. It hurt even more when everyone was telling I messed up and how they would hate to be me lol thanks I feel so much better now. Tristan Barry was fine and told me not to worry about it and forgave me but this still rings in my head now I don't think I felt more embarrassed in my life. I hope nothing like that ever happens again. I was embarrassed because I let my coach and I didn't know what I was doing and that's why I let him down. I don't know what I learned from it except to maybe pay attention more other then that I didn't know the move to well and that's why I messed up i don't know how I could have really helped it but I learned from it at least.
ReplyDeleteRecently, and I mean very recently, I have realized how awkward I am under certain circumstances. Under most circumstances I feel like I am not too awkward but there are a couple that trigger me. I cannot remember my most embarrassing or awkward moment, but I’ll explain the ones that come up all the time. One occasion when I am extremely awkward is when I say “Hi”. This seems like the easiest thing, and it is when it’s my very close friends. But when it’s someone I kind of know or am getting to know, I totally mess up. I’m not the most outgoing person when it comes to Hi’s, therefore there are only a few people I say hi to initially. I would say that this is because I don’t want to get left hanging, so I only say hi to people I know will say hi back. But it gets awkward when someone that I kind of or am getting to know says it to me first. Since I was not going to say hi to them, I wasn’t expecting one either, so I get weird when they catch me off guard. Normally I let out a really late hi or hey, and in almost every circumstance it is really short, high pitched and laughable. I have been getting better at this recently but it is still a big problem.
ReplyDeleteThe other is talking to girls. Once I establish that I like that person, then it get weird talking to them. I do something different in regular conversation with them to make up for the fact. I’ll talk funny, try to act manly, there are a few more, but they all do the same job…make me feel less awkward by making everything awkward. I think I’m just a weird guy so that’s what makes my conversations with girls weird. Plus everything with girls has to be complicated and I want to simplify it but I can’t so that just makes it even worse.
Even though I’m not sure what my most embarrassing moment is, it is probably a mix between these two types of events.
Well here it goes… my most embarrassing moment. I was about 6 years old and every morning mom and I had a routine for school. Like I said in class today, I’ve always been super independent. So, with that mentioned, ain't nobody gonna dress me in clothes I didn’t dress myself in, or in clothes I didn’t wear. This one particular morning, morning routine went haywire. Little ole independent Kayla who is only 6 years old couldn’t make up her mind on what to wear to school that day, and whatever mom picked out for me wasn’t cutting it. SO… Momma Rosen took me to school NAKED.
ReplyDeleteCould you imagine? Going to school naked? Where people might see your privates… the things you’re taught to never show anyone EVER… not even after you’re married. As a child, no one saw yours and you didn’t see anyone else's, so all you knew was privates were off limits. Oh gosh was this embarrassing. I knew for a fact this was embarrassing because I was taught-- like many of us are-- that your private parts are PRIVATE, hence PRIVATE parts. I recognized the embarrassment because if it wasn’t embarrassing, my mom would have never done it. She was trying to embarrass me to teach me a lesson. If it weren’t for me being embarrassed about all my friends seeing me naked for the simple fact that I couldn’t pick out clothes to wear, my mom probably would have given up on me and let me stay home. But, since it was in fact embarrassing-- lemme tell you-- that is what she did. In the end, she had a bag of clothes for me to wear to school after I caved in and learned my lesson like she knew I would, because duh she’s mom and knows everything. Overall, although I was young and although I didn’t actually go into school naked for all my friends to see, it taught me that you can’t always get your way. It also taught me that sometimes to learn the real lesson behind things, is to take that chance whether it be a risk or something that may embarrass you, you must do these things to truly learn.
Although this isn't the most crazy embarrassing/ awkward moment anyone has ever had, but lemme tell you it was embarrassing for me. It's weird to think about these kinds of moments in our life and think of how we knew it was embarrassing or how it was made embarrassing. PEOPLE make things embarrassing. If it weren't for the people who laugh or whisper or talk about it, then nothing would ever be embarrassing. Embarrassment and awkwardness are created and learned. If you don't make it awkward it won't be awkward, ya know?
Most of the time, I do everything in my power to avoid embarrassment. If I do embarrass myself, I laugh it off, play it off or embrace it. But freshman year, no matter what I did, I couldn't avoid where I found myself.
ReplyDeleteI went up to get my lunch from the lunch line and when I returned with pure "nourishment" on my tray, I sat down. I sat down and before I knew it I was was on the floor. My chair broke from under me; my previous chair was fine, but what Nate Grabel neglected to tell me was the people behind me switched their broken chair for my stable one. Looking up from the ground with my eyes wide and my jaw on the floor, my friends stared back at me. I was laughing. They were trying not to laugh out of respect but it would've been okay. I knew everyone had secondhand embarrassment because everyone had eyes on me.
This was not my fault; the friends I had at the table did not inform me that my chair was switched for a broken one. My actions were not to blame. I mean yeah I could've looked down before I sat or had a better choice in friends, but my friends also could've been better people.
Oh dear god, you said to think of just one embarrassing moment but at least a dozen cringe-worthy scenarios come to mind. This past week actually consisted of a series of unfortunate events in which I managed to make myself look like a fOOL. On Tuesday, for example, I elected not to wear my glasses to school because I thought my contour was on point and I wanted to look fleeked and glasses just didn't fit into my aesthetic of the day. So I walked around school for the first three periods basically blind to anything farther than two feet from my face. Anyway, I was walking through the hall when I thought I saw one of my friends. Mind you, I am very conscious of my own visual shortcomings, so I made sure to wait until this girl got closer just to confirm that she was indeed my friend. So we're walking towards each other and I'm squinting mad hard (and we’re the only two people in the hallway which just adds to the awkwardness) and she finally gets like five feet away from my face and at this point I'm 99% sure that she's the friend in question so I'm like “hey Lada!!” and then I plummet into a spiraling pit of self loathing and pity as I realize that this girl is in fact not Lada doukhnai but a random stranger who is now looking at me as if I have 2 heads growing out of my neck and my face turns red and my life flashes before my eyes and I try to untwist my tongue to form some sort of apology but it's too late now because she has already walked past me and I can only seem to communicate incoherent vowel sounds because my shame has overtaken my ability to speak and I have to fight the urge to throw myself out the nearest window and into the dirt where I belong.
ReplyDeleteIn this scenario, I knew to be embarrassed because mistaking someone for someone else is embarrassing to begin with, and then having that person look at you in complete puzzlement as a result is like ten times more embarrassing because they know that you know that you done goofed and they do not intend to grant you any mercy or any inch of understanding so your initial thoughts of “ohmygod I'm an idiot” are confirmed.
Embarrassing experiences have taught me to doubt myself and question my actions and overthink every little thing before actually doing it to spare myself of cringe-worthy scenarios. If I'm really on the fence about doing something, for example posting on social media or wearing an outfit, I'll ask my friends for their opinion, and their reaction then shows me how I should act. It's funny because even when I'm not around people and I do something stupid, for example putting dispensable hand soap on my toothbrush instead of toothpaste, I still get embarrassed because I think “dear god what if someone was here to see that.” So in a way, I'm never completely free of judgement, whether it's coming from others or my own mind.
Naturally, I’m a very awkward person, so I have a lot of awkward moments. A few years ago, my sister fought with my mom all the time. This was an everyday occurrence in my household. I was always the voice of reason in my house, and I was the one to break it up when the fighting got out of hand. During every fight, I sided with my sister instead of siding with my mom. My mom hated this, so it was always awkward between my mom and I. On one occasion, the fighting got so bad that I held my mom down until her and Amber cooled off. After that, she told me that my sister and I weren’t her kids and she told us to go live with our dad. For the months that I was with my dad, things were really awkward with my mom. I didn’t talk to her at all but occasionally I saw her when my dad had to drop off a check or when she came to a soccer game. At the soccer games, I didn’t even look at her because I was angry at her and didn’t know what to say to her. Things eventually got better with my mom, but those couple of months that I hadn’t seen her, and even when I started living with her again were just weird. When I moved back in, I didn’t know what to say to her and she didn’t want to start a conversation either. I still get a feeling of this after we get in an argument at night and then we sit in silence as she drives me to school in the morning. Things are less awkward with my mom now, but we still have our moments. This experience taught me that sometimes to avoid an awkward situation rather than embrace it.
ReplyDeleteRuffling through my brain to figure out what was one of the most embarrassing moments in my life, I looked down and saw the sling I’m wearing while trying to type this blog. The most embarrassing moment was when I visited my friend at Saint Joe’s University and I broke my collarbone at a party. Figures, me, of all people, I go to my first college party and I would be the one to break their collarbone. However, it could have been worse because I broke it when everyone was gone, so that’s a plus. What else that was embarrassing was the next morning the Saint Joe’s public safety had to drive me and my friend to the hospital. It was awkward because they had to go through routine questions on who I was, where this happened, and what happened. But the most embarrassing thing about this whole situation was that my parents had to drive all the way up to get me and right before we left Saint Joe’s I ran into the new friends I made and they looked at me and said, “Damn, I’ve had a pretty rough morning after, but this tops it all”. Then I laughed, said, “Well, thanks... I guess”, then my dad yelled at me to get in the car, and we drove in awkward silence for two hours back to sunny Mays Landing.
ReplyDeleteThis entire experience taught me a great deal. First, it gave me some college experience and what not to do (i.e. break your collarbone). Second, it taught me how to be a responsible young adult. Third, it taught me that college is not and should not be the stereotypical montra of “partying” every weekend. As all of us are applying for colleges to attend to next year, it’s important to remember that you are going to college for your future, not to party. Just learn from my experience, this was only my first college party, imagine what could happen to me or you guys after a lot of them. Therefore, have fun and enjoy yourself, but not to much that you end up breaking your collarbone.
Oh good golly.. To first note I do strongly agree with the theory of Bandura that people learn through observing others. A person is a product of their environment. We learn through what we see.
ReplyDeleteNow onto my most embarrassing or awkward moment. If you didn't know this about me I am one to get injured very very easily... i've broken 11 bones. Not to jinx it or anything but I actually haven't broken a bone in the last four years! So onto while i'm telling you this, I am just a very clumsy person I mean well I did drop a plate on my face in front of Clark.. But that was not as embarrassing as what I did on the one afternoon by the pool back in the fifth grade. At my old house in EHT we had an above ground pool which means we also had a pretty nice above ground pool deck. So, me, my two brothers and my best friend's family were hanging out on it one afternoon cause my mom was at work and the worst thing imaginable happened. My lazy self saw a stack of chairs and decided why take one from the top when I could just sit on the whole stack, now mind you the chair stack was right on the edge of the pool deck steps. As I was sitting on the large stack I accidently leaned back too far and me and the whole stack went tumbling down. I hit every step and each time I hit a step the chairs that I was sitting on hit me. Within seconds I was awake and utterly confused. When I hit the bottom I blacked out just for a few seconds but I quickly woke in tears. I had broken my nose, my left arm in different sections, a couple fingers on my left hand and pushed the two bones in my wrist together. Breaking my bones was not the embarrassing part it was the fact that my best friend's family saw the whole thing and they had to take me to the hospital, now I mean they were more family to me than just friends but still. I was mortified.
I do not know how to tell you how I knew it was embarrassing it just was. I had seen people get hurt before and they were always embarrassed but I didn't even think of that at the time all I could think about was how stupid i felt. All the experience taught me was that I need to be more careful. I could say it taught me to stop being lazy or that my actions have consequences but let's be real it didn't.
I’ve had to deal with many embarrassing/awkward situations in my 17 years of existence. In fact, my whole life is an embarrassment (jkjk). But looking back at them now, they weren’t that bad. I can confidently talk about them without cringing.
ReplyDeleteLet’s see: It was during sophomore year. It was in the morning and I was walking to my bus stop. I’m pretty sure it was snowing hard too. But anyways, as I was walking, I failed to acknowledge that there was ice on the sidewalk. It was dark, I was half asleep-- everything was just a blur. So naturally, I slipped. But don’t worry guys, I was able to catch myself before I plummeted to the ground (ngl I almost did a split). I tried getting back up, but silly me, I FALL AGAIN. And this time, flat on my butt. So now there is snow everywhere on me. I mean, I’m pretty clumsy, and this stuff usually doesn’t faze me. I knew people who were waiting in their cars saw me. I just had to keep my head down and not make eye contact with any of them. But this is where it gets good. So my bus stop is pretty much at the entrance of my neighborhood, and across the entrance is Tommy Kammer’s house. You would think he’d be eating his breakfast or getting all of his school stuff together-- doing anything that doesn’t involve looking out the window.. Nope. He was staring right out the window and saw me almost die. That’s not even the best part. We get onto the bus and ya know, the other kids kind of ignore what happened, but Tommy walks right up to me, (and he’s laughing) and goes, “Omg Jasmine are you okay?” No Tommy. I am not okay. My jeans are now wet because of the snow. And there’s nothing you can do. Right after we got on though, I told my friend Ashley immediately. And honestly, I think talking about it made it less embarrassing for me. Within a minute, I got over it and started laughing at myself. I thought it was sooo funny that I told everyone. That’s the best way to look at it to be honest, at any embarrassing/awkward situations. It’s better to laugh at yourself and embrace the embarrassment versus being ashamed and swallowing in the self pity that comes with it.
Gosh I was an embarrassing kid, and still am to this day. Now, I think back to those moments and laugh. Back in 5th grade, this year became my turning point… for my appearance that is. I’d developed bushy eyebrows and a “peach fuzz”, but not exactly, more like a dark mustache. I will never forget when my classmate, Kevin, said out loud that I had a mustache and laughed, as well as my friends. I laughed with them so I could hide my embarrassment. When I went home, I looked in my bathroom mirror and realized that I wasn’t pretty at all. I thought ‘how can I get rid of this?’. I looked around the bathroom and found a razor laying around in my drawer. Took it and began shaving basically my whole entire face without hesitating. I “shaped” my eyebrows with the razor because who uses tweezers. Oh they came out great, yep, a straight brow, no arch, that was as thin as a sharpie’s mark. Shaved my forehead because no hair can be seen there, am I right? Same goes for my cheeks, sideburns, and mustache of course. I felt like a woman. I cleaned myself up and went to bed. Next morning, got ready for school. When my mom saw me, she flipped! She said “Claire, what did you do to you face?!!!” Told her and thought if I really did something wrong. When she told me I wasn’t supposed to shave my entire face, I felt even more embarrassed then and refused to go to school. I was dreading the laughter of everyone there. However, I can never skip school, thanks mom….I was in school, and of course, they noticed, asked my questions about what I did to my face, and giggled. My face was actually starting get really itchy and burn. Never again I would do that to my face. Lesson learned. Now, I know that the internet is a helpful tool.
ReplyDeleteSorry for being late but anyway here is my blog.
ReplyDeleteAwkward moments for me??? Well in all honesty I don’t embarrass myself that much, or at least enough to remember it. Now that I think about it I actually have embarrassed myself couple of time but most of them were for the amusement of other people so I knowingly embarrassed myself. There is this one time though that I embarrassed myself and I didn’t know it, and I was when I cried in public. I won’t go into the details on why I cried because it’s irrelevant now but anyway whenever I cry I get embarrassed. People should be able to control their emotions rather than be controlled by them, especially guys but anyway for that one moment I cried in public and it was one of the worse experiences in my life. I don’t know why but that just how I am I don’t like being controlled by my emotions, I would rather listen to logic. Sadly, I am human so naturally it is impossible not to show emotion. Anyway crying is something I do not do or at least I try not to do, so when it happens I get really embarrassed. Guys shouldn’t be unstable in their emotions so I becoming unstable enough to cry just really embarrassed me. Only a handful of times I’ve I seen any of the men in my life cry, the only times have been when a family member dies and when they face a major revelation, so crying over what I was just didn’t seem right which is why I felt embarrassed or at least I guess that’s why.
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ReplyDeleteFor me, it is hard to pick just one awkward or embarrassing moment in my life because I am a very awkward person. Like if people can describe me in one word, it is awkward. While some view it as a bad and negative characteristic, I view it as the opposite. Without it, I wouldn’t make a bunch of people laugh and I wouldn’t have gotten to know most of my friends. Sometime I feel like I can use my awkwardness to my advantage. I always remember, “They are not laughing at you, they are laughing with you. “ One moment that pop in my head currently is when I accidentally left one of the column fall flat in the little mermaid musical last year. Dina ask me to cover for Alfonso in the play. Basically it was helping out with stage crew. It was my first time helping out in stage crew and my first time watching a play in person. It was intimidating like I never done this before and I worry that I would mess up on my first day. When I stayed after school, Andy and the twins (Emmanuel and Samuel) greeted me and fill me in on what is my role. While I helped out with getting the props in or out, my role was to carry in and out the columns quickly. The columns required two people. One to hold the column and the other holding the weight that keeps it from falling. Then bring it behind the curtains and place the weight on the column to help it stay in place. It sounded like an easy job. Removing the columns involves Andy, Tim, the twins, and me. Before the musical, I thought to myself “ Don’t mess up your first day. Just follow the guys lead.”. It was working throughout the musical. I helped placing ramps at their locations and I was the one holding the weights for the columns. The musical was going smoothly, until that one scene. It was the last scene involving the columns. There wasn’t any problem at the beginning, but the problem appear at the end. Once the scene end, the actors rush out of the stage and the stage crew come in and prepares for the new scene. My group rushed out and remove the columns. As I was removing the weight, I thought “the musical is almost done and I didn’t do something stupid yet. After this, you are technically done. Keep it up.” While I was compliment myself, I didn’t realize that no one was holding onto my column. Once I remove the weight, the column just started falling forward. It was like a tree falling. I swear someone on stage said, “Timberrr”. The column fell flat on the stage and thank god that it didn't fell out of the stage. The impact sound had everyone shocked. I made a stupid gasp face once it fell. Luckily, Samuel realized what happened and picked up my column and we hurried to the back to place it down. Once everything settled, I just sat down on a chair and just try to analysis what just happened. I believe some people found that funny and others were a little confuse. I remember I just dozed off and until one of the twins snap me out. It was the end of the musical and everyone heads to the stage for the final bow.
ReplyDeleteI knew this was an embarrassing moment because I created something that wasn't intended to happen. Every time I feel embarrass, my brain goes into overdrive on the embarrassing moment and my skin start having this weird feeling. It feels like my skin is fire. Once the incident happened, I started over thinking things like who knew that I was the culprit of the falling column, did audience saw what happen, did someone recorded it, and etc. The burning sensation wasn't helping either. The only way I fight back my habit was to repeatedly remind myself that mention quote. In the end, I learn to don’t jinx things and to laugh it off. Laughter is usually the best medicine.
Searching back into my memories I cannot really pick out a specific “most embarrassing moment,” I have been embarrassed many times before but none have really been over the top most embarrassing moment ever. The most recent embarrassing moment I had was at the welcome wagon over the summer. A couple people gassed me to do the Oakcrest, what? Chant, so I did. I yelled Oakcrest and you know what happened? Nobody asked me what? It was terrible. I was never going to do that again. Of course 20 seconds later I did it again and everyone participated, but for that 20 seconds it was horrible and I almost cried. I knew this moment was embarrassing because I was THAT guy. The one who tried to start a chant and no one participated. I got like 2 halfhearted whats. They were barely even whats, more like a “OAKCREST?!” “Huh?” It was bad. Some people looked at me and didn’t say anything. I don’t know what I did wrong but in that moment nobody wanted to participate in the famous oakcrest chant.
ReplyDeleteI learned through this that people need to be ready for it before you go screaming chants, most of the time at least. WHen were grouped of to take a picture and a couple people gas you si not the time to tto start a chant. Get everyone ready, and then do it, or just don't do it atl all in that situation. In hindsight that really wasn’t a good idea. Hindsight is always 20/20 right? That’s a reference to a last year blog.
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I get embarrassed really easily, like I couldn't even pick one. The second I think anyone might not think what I was doing was normal, I'll just be embarrassed. I think I've learned to fuck it more often. The way people think or see me doesn't really phase me as much.
ReplyDeleteI guess that is the weird part. That people are embarrassed out of insecurity and from the perception of other people.
I never really thought I cared, but I guess I do.
I'm pretty embarrassing now and I'm kinda okay with it.
I also realize I dwell a lot on situations I thought were embarrassing, things that I wish I could change or say something different because as you know this mouth has a broken filter.
I then realized, I don't do that as much.
I think I finally got to a place in my life where the things people thought were kinda out my control.
I'm off topic and I'm sorry
DeleteHow to recognize embarrassment? The feeling of insecurity where you have to look at the people around you just to make sure your okay.
like when you fart and you don't say excuse me because nobody heard you
or when you trip and just walk away or laugh. There's a difference.
People mess up, say things they shouldn't- stop looking around to check if "you're good" when you can just start being good without checking.
Also, this. I just watched the cutest like cutest video on twitter---check the retweet. I'm embarrassed of love and other people and that all has to do with growing up. It has to do with losing your innocence because I would never been embarrassed if at one point someone told me or showed me not to do something or to see something as wrong.
DeleteI have so many embarrassing moments but to look back and name one is so difficult. Maybe there like repressed memories??? Moving on, in any awkward situation I just get really hot, I feel like my body is on fire, and my face practically burns me when I touch it. I think I feel awkward or embarrassed because other people give off the vibe that I should be, or even just because they look at me. Being embarrassed is one of my worst fears because I feel like at that moment I can’t handle anything and I just want to curl up in a ball. That’s why I hate watching shows with hidden cameras or shows like Impractical Jokers because I feel their embarrassment. When I see someone do something that would be deemed embarrassing I try to pay no attention to it and pretend nothing happened just to try and make them feel more comfortable. Embarrassing moments are meant to teach lessons, whether it’s to be more aware of the things you do and the people around you, or to be prepared for whatever may happen.
ReplyDeleteAs most of you know I’m a very clumsy person. I’m also a very outgoing and funny person (when around people I’m comfortable with). As you can imagine, I embarrass myself majority of the time. One time I was skiing/ tubing in the Poconos. I was with my two sisters, my aunt, and one of my sisters friends. At the end of our session everyone who was tubing had to go meet in this area. It was a bunch of little mini snow mountains. My crew and I (everyone I was with) made our way to the ski party. We all wanted to get on top of the mountain and sit because the ski resort was going to do fireworks shortly. It took forever for everyone to actually get on the mountain, climb it, and actually sit down. After all that hassle I realized I had to go pee. Like really bad. So bad I couldn’t hold it. But I was looking forward to the fireworks and so was everyone else. I couldn’t tell them we had to leave the mountain just so I could go to the bathroom. After contemplating what to do and if I could hold it and wait for the show to start, I realized I really did have to leave the mountain. But once I made my decision it was too late. I had peed myself. Mind you, I was about 11 at the time. So you can imagine how embarrassed I was to tell my older sisters and aunt that I just peed myself. What made it even worse was the fact that under my snow tubing gear; I was wearing my one sisters pair of leggings. Adrianna was sooooooo mad at me and disgusted that she threw them out haha. I remember feeling so gross and childish when it all happened- and even now typing this I’m thinking to myself, “Angela wtf really”. Normally only babies and toddlers will pee themselves, not teens. That’s why I was so embarrassed because I clearly at the time wasn’t at the appropriate age for it to be okay for me to pee myself. This experience taught me that if I have to pee- go pee.
ReplyDeleteI used to very awkward. When I first moved here, I rarely spoke to anyone. I was antisocial and just was not comfortable with anyone or anything. When people talked to me, I just couldn’t seem to find the right words. There would always be a lot of awkward silences and I thought I would just probably stay that way for the rest of my life. That is until I made so far the best decision of my life, to go to Oakcrest. Thanks to everyone I was able to get out of that phase. It may seem like I don’t talk in Bunje’s class but that’s because sometimes I really be lost and/or trying to comprehend the mind boggling questions she throws at us. I am just honestly glad I made the decision to come to Oakcrest because without it I would probably still be socially awkward. What changed me is everyone who goes here. From the school spirit to all the great people around you who make you laugh and brighten your day without even trying. I met so many great friends and people here, this will be a place I never forget.
ReplyDeleteIf I had to say what my most embarrassing moment was, it would be when Alex McFarland tripped me sophomore year. I am pretty sure I already used this but, to me, it definitely is the most embarrassing moment. It’s this because when it occurred, it wasn’t laughed at immediately, there was just an awkward silence followed by a gasp of breathe like if everyone was in shock. No one honestly started to laugh until she picked me up and hugged me and kissed me on the cheek in apology. I acted like I hated her for it for a couple days, but I knew she didn’t mean to embarrass me like that. She intentionally stuck her leg out, hoping I would just maybe stumble, not completely face plant in front of everyone. It was just really embarrassing because I hit the ground pretty hard. I hit the floor with a thump that probably shook the whole hallway. So EVERYONE knew what had happened. This will be a memory I will never forget, but now look back on and just laugh at the whole situation. I feel like that’s what happens to most embarrassing situations though, when we look back at them we can just have a good laugh.
I swear I had this blog perfect and done then I fell asleep and could not publish it and then my phone was stolen and they took my blog with it. :( So the most awkward moment ever was a date I had with this boy who I did not know from cchs. Just to give you a little background information he dmed me and we started texting and then we found out that our parents were actually bffs so it was safe and I knew if we went on a date he wouldn’t steal me. When he picked me up he texted me that he was “here” so I walked out to his car and he drove us to the Tilton 9 movie theater. Just know the entire way there we said exactly one sentence. Also the radio was not even on loud or even on the entire time so we literally sat in silence for about half an hour. Once we got to the movies we watched the entire movie in silence and drove back home in silence. After that we never talked again and it was the worst, most awkward date of my life and I would like to never live it again. This experience taught me how I need more social skills because I could not think of a single thing to talk about. Luckily after this summer I have become more comfortable talking to new people and I am so thankful for my job that taught me this. Working on the beach patrol as a rookie means you are at a new beach each day. This means I got to meet new people every day and had to figure out what to talk about for eight hours. Along with talking to my stand partners I also had all the beachgoers I needed to talk to and answer questions for. I am so thankful for this experience because I now feel so much more comfortable talking to people I do not know.
ReplyDeleteI've been in plenty of embarrassing moments. Sophomore year during the choir concert we were singing firework by Katy Perry. I had the solo for the second verse and for some reason when it came to be my solo I couldn't remember ta thing. eventually I remembered but it was already a line or two into the verse. I was so embarrassed. I felt like I had let everyone down. my heart was racing my stomach started to hurt and that's how I knew I was super embarrassed. This experience taught me to be more prepared for handling these type of moment's. I'm happy that all my friends forgave me for messing up. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2unlhadcLww here's the link to the video that of course had to be made.:( its at 1:15
ReplyDeleteI get really embarrassed when people shoot down what I say. I can’t pinpoint a specific time because I remember all of them and, while there may not really be that many incidents, I feel like there have been. In addition to those moments, I used to feel awkward about my weight. I understand that I never appeared as gross as I thought I did to other people, but to me, I was gross. I looked at my reflection every morning and hated it. Sometimes I still do. I would never think about who I’d rather look like or anything because it was never like that. I’d just imagine looking smaller; that’s all I cared about. Every time I looked at my legs or my arms or my feet or my hands or my hips I’d feel awkward. Every time I finally picked an outfit based merely on how big or small the clothes made me look, I’d feel awkward in my own skin anyway.
ReplyDeleteI know what awkward feels like. It feels like undefined exclusion, like hot cheeks and sweaty palms and suffocating humidity. It feels like nausea and stress and silent tears and it feels terrible. Being embarrassed is the same way.
My experience taught me that it isn’t worth the pain to worry so much.I drug myself so far down into pits of depression and insecurity and self-hate and hate in general. I was so sad and I don’t think I will ever return to that place. It isn’t worth it. Being sad and jeopardizing your mental and physical health over something so unimportant to your character is not worth it.
I have one moment i will always remember and always get extremely uncomfortable just thinking about. its one of those things where just thinking about it makes me angry in myself and make me want to think about literally anything else in the world if it means getting that memory out fo my head. I was over a friends house for her birthday party and me and about three other of her friends spent the night there as well. I got along with them all but they were all a lot closer than i was and i felt pretty left out form the moment i walked into the door. after conversations i knew nothing about and had no way to contribute to them we had to go to church. Her family was very musical i guess and her father played the piano for the church i think. i had no nice clothes so i was about the only one looking dusty af in church like i just got out of jail wearing clothes that didn't fit me anymore after 10 years of being locked up, exaggeration i know but that's how it felt. i was out of place and uncomfortable. Im not a spiritual or religious person and i don't mean to offend anyone with what im about to say because i don't know the right words to use. A man went up to the podium at the front of the church and said something that sounded like he asked for volunteers to hold the basket to collect money. And me being the person i am, went up to the front to stand with two girls (one being my friend) to volunteer to help. After standing there for a second i realized all of the people staring at me confused. I glanced over to my friend who asked what i was doing standing with her and said i'm here to help and she said they already have people picked out to do it... my face got so red and i scurried back to my seat with sweaty palms and shaky knees. My other friend asked why i went up there and i said i had to tell her something but nevermind. My eyes started filling up with tears in embarrassment. throughout the rest of the time we sat there i held back tears and felt so stupid. at the end my friends said "did you tell her what you had to tell her?" and laughed at me and is said no i forgot. them knowing damn well i didnt have to tell her anything. i was so embarrassed and just wanted to go home.
ReplyDeletewhenever im embarrassed i get angry at myself for being stupid enough to put myself in a situation like that and if i get mad enough i begin to cry. so from that moment on i haven't done or said anything that could possibly embarrass me. i think not twice but three times before talking and a lot of the time i refrain from saying anything out loud in class or doing anything hoping i save myself from embarrassment.